Creating a Swinger Profile

Here are some tips on creating your swinger dating profile online using one of the swinger sites:

Choose a username that you will remember and that is easy to convey to others. Choose something that both of you like because some of the sites will not let you change your name later.  If you plan to sign up for multiple sites, it is easiest if you can use the same name across all platforms.  Try to make the name you choose clever, fun, & sexy sounding.  If you try to be too clever with the spelling, however, you may find it gets difficult for people you meet to remember it later when they are clothed and in possession of a writing implement or internet access. 😉 It is probably best to avoid names like the one parodied in “Shit Swingers Say” at the 23-39 second spot:

Post a few pictures.  Profiles without any pictures look suspicious.  This does not mean you need to post naked pictures, or even face pictures, but something to represent you, and what you generally look like for others to assess if there will at least be some mutual attraction before arranging to meet up.  Most swingers seem to post pictures with faces in locked folders where we have to grant other people access.  There is also the option of posting face pictures to be viewable by all “certified” (someone has verified the person is real and they know them) members of the site, but just not to public or non-certified people.  When choosing pictures, try to choose a few of your most flattering pictures that reflect your personality or sexuality.  Do your best to avoid distracting backgrounds with things like piles of laundry or dishes in the sink (this may seem an obvious tip, but those pictures are out there).  These are pictures designed to see if someone finds you attractive.  It should get them in the mood to engage and flirt with you.  If you do decide to include nude pictures, we advise putting these in your locked albums, but everyone has their own comfort levels.

Tell people about yourself.  Answer a few questions (if the site you are using has them) and tell people a bit about your likes/dislikes.  It is hard to know if two couples are compatible without this.  For instance, a lot of girls are bi-sexual, but you may not be.  If you, as a couple, are ONLY looking for single females, or only want to do girl-girl play (no swapping of partners, the girls just play together while the boys watch usually) this is really important to post upfront so people aren’t surprised.  Of course, you may still be exploring and discovering what it is you really like and that’s fine too.  Many of the sites alert users to the newest members who have joined.  I’m sure there will be people interested in helping you explore.

From there, explore and get to know the site.  They all have different features.  Some capabilities are only accessible with paid membership, some are free.  There are also sites that offer free trial memberships or the first 3-6 months free when you use a referral code.  If you don’t have any friends on the sites yet, feel free to use our name as your referrer: ebcouple.

Interact with others – this can be “liking” photos (available on some sites),  commenting, or sending notes saying you’re interested.  Even if short, try to make notes personal to some degree.  Many of the sites also have a “flirt” or “like” or “wish list” feature so someone can see you’re interested and then check you out to see if there is mutual interest.

Remember, you don’t need to meet up with anyone or do anything you don’t want to do.  This is all for you and not everyone will be someone you’ll want to meet.  It is fine to say a polite “no, thank you.”  Simply saying you don’t think you’re compatible is fine.  If you decide you do want to meet up, we recommend a public venue and just meeting up with no expectations for anything else at first.  My hubby and I prefer to meet other couples at swinging events unless we’re fairly certain we’ll like them, they live relatively close, and see they’ve already been positively vetted by other members.  This way, meeting the couple then politely excusing ourselves (if we choose to do so) is not awkward and we can easily talk together as a couple about what we thought.